From a Tragic to Resilient Mindset
Do you face challenges at work or in life that derail you from achieving the goals you initially set out to accomplish?
Some of the overwhelming problems could be: tight deadlines or being embarrassed in a meeting by the boss or being excluded from a project team. Do you at times feel like being trapped in a revolving door that you just can't seem to find the exit?
Slow down, relax and reflect. I believe that every one of us has a purpose to achieve something great in life.Everything we experience at work or life happens for a reason. We can learn a lesson from everything.
Some of my self-sabotaging self-talk :
The unfriendly experience of getting into an elevator and greeting a neighbor who ignored you.
Holding the elevator door for a person who does not appreciate you.
Being penalized by time just because someone hazardously cuts into your lane abruptly causing you to slow down.
Stuck in an underground parking area unable to find a parking space.
Here is an interesting thought...the neighbor that ignored you has moved on. I am still holding on to the tragic mindset. What could I do to free myself from the prison of suffering?
Let’s examine the 5 H framework as a guide to move from a tragic to resilient mindset.
Happen
The first step is to examine what are some challenging experiences or painful moments that we avoid, ignore or sweep under the carpet. Take a closer look into every situation and circumstances that cause pain and give us a tragic mindset.
Ask uncomfortable, thought provoking questions. Dive deeper and find out the root cause of the challenge. Once we have established the data pain points, move to the next stage.
Hurt
Acknowledge that we are not machines and we are capable of storing and feeling physical, mental and emotional pain. Be mindful and sensitive about our needs. Take time to recover. Give ample space to breathe. Laugh as laughter is a powerful resource to break state and change patterns so that we overcome challenges and obstacles.
Move away from the path of feeling hopelessness, helplessness and worthlessness. Believe that every experience whether pain or pleasure will make us stronger.What can be learn from the experience?
Re-evaluate and identify the real reason why we feel the pain. Take time to relax and find out any missing information that could help us look at things in a positive light and to laugh at the problems.
Laughter is a powerful tool to distract, release the tension and break the pattern of our current undesirable state.
Humour
At the next stage, we must have the courage to reframe the situation. Reframe and give each experience that we face some new meaning.
When I was young I was disturbed and bullied a lot. Some would say, “Hey FAT boy” and I would cry my way home feeling hurt. Everything changed when my dad shifted my perspective by saying “People can see you easily” and that I am; “Fun, Authentic and Talented”.
I moved away from a tragic mindset to a more comedic mindset - I had the ability to elevate my mood. My personal space was a happier space. I could further change the posture, word pattern, perspective and change my state.
Thus we have to learn to look at the bright-side of a situation. Cultivate the ability to make a joke out of it and to lighten the situation. Learn to laugh at our challenges, trials and tribulations. Poke more fun into the situation to allow us to release the tension. Allow the joy to shine back into the path of alignment and progress. Practice and cultivate a happier, healthier and sustainable culture that allows a shift in perspective.
Heal
The next stage is to allow the patch up work to take place. A scare is a hurtful reminder. If we shift our perspective, we give new meaning to the word scare and re-label it as S-Care – Systematic Care. A scab is a protective tissue covering that forms after your skin has been damaged.
Make a habit think positive, hang around happy positive people and apply the tools and techniques of reframing in our daily routine. Allow the body to rest and recover overtime.
Let’s put into practice the new behavioral changes. Engage in conversations that motivate and encourage your team mates. Build relationship and trust with friends and family that support you during tough times.Affirm all the right and great practices.
We can learn to nurture self-care and self-lead ourselves.
Happiness
The final stage is to Laugh and Win together. Empower others.Share the technique we learn and find ways to help others. Strive to be in an optimal state of being engage and motivated. Maintain a positive space.Look forward to possibilities. Set for yourself higher standards and achieve greater positive results
Harvest the seed of happiness and cruise in the freeway of happiness together with your team. Open up conversations and dialogues that are progressive. Remind each other of greater times ahead. Push the team forward and engage in happiness as a team for a better work life balance experience.
Believe that every one of us has the potential of becoming a better version of ourselves and to constant remember that we have special gifts. We have to accept failure as life’s learning lessons and to move forward. We have to be engage and igniting the spark of passion in what they do.
The power of laughter will motivate and encourage us and we can move forward in adversity. We can set greater standards and being able to push them out of the comfort zone.
We can exceed our personal best if we can invest more time in our focus of moving forward and spend less time on looking back. Let’s bounce back from our setbacks.
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